Or 2 years.
So it’s Mother’s Day weekend, and I keep seeing the same comments/videos/questions. “Why can’t she just tell me what she wants?” or, “Just tell me what to do”
These are such unfair remarks from those who are supposed to love us. No, we don’t deserve a parade or to have hundreds of dollars spent on us. But we deserve thought, considerate action, and real effort. This day is meant to celebrate the woman who either brought you or your child(ren) into this world. It happens every year, not on the same day, but always in May. This means that there is plenty of time to plan.
I want to give some examples of relatively cheap ideas on how to celebrate the woman you love or respect.
Breakfast in bed, eggs, bagels, sausage, coffee. These might be things that you already have in the house. The most important part of this is that YOU clean up any mess that is made. Also, you can completely clean the kitchen ( if that is a chore you don’t normally do).
Go to the dollar store and buy some Epsom salt, candles, a sentimental card, and some of her favorite snacks. Draw her a hot bath with candles lit, have a drink, and her snacks up there. Music playing on her phone. Take the kids to a park so they can’t disturb her. Quiet time with no questions or crying children is very refreshing.
If you have more money to spend, get her a gift card to her favorite place. Her actual favorite place, not like Wal-Mart, she’ll just buy stuff for the house. Let her go by herself with no time limit. The only rule is that she can only buy things for herself.
If you actually listen to her when she talks, she will tell you things she likes or wants. Keep notes in your phone. I have a Google Drive document called Gifts for Husband. Jot things down as they are said, so you can remember.
If you are no longer with the mother of your child(ren), you should absolutely gift them something. How you treat her is how your son will treat the person he loves, or it will set a standard for your daughter on what to expect from her significant other.
Now to the ladies. Please make sure you are setting up realistic expectations for your day. If you guys are struggling financially, don’t expect a $400 purse or anything extravagant. If you want real effort put into you, make sure that you are putting real effort into your partner. Relationships are a two-way street, and they involve so much communication to thrive.
I was really surprised by how much effort my husband put into this weekend. He planned a date night, decided on the restaurant, day of the week, AND found a sitter with no assistance. He bought me so many of my favorite snacks and make me breakfast and dinner. He also put real effort into spending time with me and got some of my to-do list done. I felt so loved, appreciated, and seen. It was the first time in a REALLY long time.
These are some pictures of the weekend.
I hope my fellow moms know how amazing they are. Happy Mother’s Day!